They had that and it didnt work

As someone who isnt qualified to answer any trans related question: just let them be as long as they’re not being a jerk

There are bigger fish to fry. There probably are people out there who fully think they’re a different race. Who’s to say their feelings are invalid while others feelings are.

And cover up your face and any visible tattoos or any other identifying features

Tomato, tomato

Eh. As an adult I get to fully choose which side I’m on. And going off of the facts I had at the time, id choose the side of not being with a cheating power abuser

But since more facts have been stated besides just i dont feel like it, its easier to pick a diffrent side.

This wasn’t cheater vs homophobe at first

I see where you’re coming from. But luck favors the bold. And I would most definitely regret not doing something for the rest of my life

But after the first attempt your no longer bold, just dumb.

I made a rule for myself because of stuff like this

If you’ve done something fun but incredibly stupid and got away with it the first time, never do it a second time.

I’m only stopping now cause OP cleared the situation up more.

Otherwise, I’d say I feel sorry for your mother. To have a child that wouldn’t have their back in that situation must be upsetting.

This person likes victim blaming

I see where you’re coming from. And I’m sorry that happened to you. Truly.

But OP only stated they dont want to go because well, it didn’t really effect them so why bother? So maybe I took this all wrong and I’m sorry if I did.

But for OP to be so dismissive of his mother’s feeling because he wants to continue hanging out with his dad is choosing a side.

Like, OP isn’t saying that mom says i have to move out but she’s never really been there for me. Or she makes bad decisions. Or some other reason would have me way more supportive. Just, I like hanging with my dad cause we’re best friends

But the dad is clearly not the best role model as he makes bad choices. He didn’t sleep with some random women. He didn’t sleep with one of his equal power co workers.

He slept with his young assistant. Which is not only shitty for the cheating reasons, but that’s literally abuse of power. Then as soon as the mom left, before the divorce is final, he moved her into the home which once house OPs family as if its no big deal

And OP acts like its nothingl and the mom is actually the bad person for feeling hurt.

The question could have been how do I tell my mom I still would like to have a relationship with my father after all this went down. But no. This whole question was looking for validation to not actually have to go with his mom for selfish reasons.

Oh wait? This isn’t about 2 gay men so its equal?

Ahhh. Yeah. Its all her fault. I understand OPs dilemma now

Edit: /s

Yes, cause letting your child not only live with a cheater but the young ASSISTANT he fucked while still going through with your divorce is such a good move.

The dad obviously doesn’t make good choices. He’s only thinking about himself. And the child already thinks theyre the greatest.

Im not saying parents should never talk to their kids. But thats what’s going to happen if OP stays in the house with is dad and his YOUNG ASSISTANT THAT MOVED IN BEFORE THE DIVORCE SHE CAUSED IS EVEN FINAL

Yup, but the dad here instead DID just moved on and brought the side chick into their old family home

Maybe I just care for my mother more. Idk

Can’t imagine living with the side chick during the divorce

Hey, that person isn’t a good role model and did something absolutly deplorable. For whats best for you, you shouldnt talk to them again or else I fear your going to look up to them and also consider doing that in the future. And thats the last thing I want for you. That person needs to understand there are consequences for their actions.

Seems like a reasonable to say to your child

Maybe add in a maybe if they really clean up their actions you can talk to them later, but the divorce is literally still happening as well as the side chick having already moved in

Maybe not in a perfect world. But here there are clearly very opposing sides.

Even if the dad is cool about it and makes it seem like choosing to stay with him isn’t picking a side, it still is

My recommendation is not to side with the guy who not only had an affair but invited Ms side peice to live in their old family home

Then OP better be fine never talking to their mom again

Says the one drawing conclusions to make the dad seem better

“Maybe she was actually a piece of shit, you never know”

Congrats on blaming the victim!

Man fucked his assistant behind his wife’s back and he’s just “partially” wrong

One choice is helping a faithful parent grieve, the other is to say fuck you to that person and stand by a cheater.

Such a difficult choice.