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Professional cow, Linux Nerd, Hardcore Techno enthusiast. The Emporer protects us.

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Cake day: June 22nd, 2024

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  • Its Not difficult at all to say if its right or wrong. Imagine you living in a shitty home, are not allowed to work, your qualifications are not officially recognised, theres very little possibilities to learn the language, you get barely enough money to not starve to death, are not allowed to move that freely and on top of that it is not possible for you to reunificate with your family. It is no wonder, that migrants are overrepresented in criminal statistics, when the integration is basically non existent and you make it 100x worse by separating them from their families.


  • The thing is, that there must be some corner from which you can start arguing. Rightwing ideology is in itself a relatively complete world image, where everything that does not fit into their world is a lie. If someone is willing to actually listen to you, discuss in a civilised manner and tries to understand what your point is, than you can have long and exhausting discussions slowly but steadily deconstructing the persons world view.

    However, if the discussions consists of “this is woke and a lie” and they are not willing to listen to you, than theres nothing you can do for them. Trist me, my parents are conspiracy theorists and I gave up in them. I Am willing to start arguing with them, if they are ever willing to come back into society, but for now their whole social group consists of conspiracy theorists and they are not willing to understand how science works, so any discussion is pointless.









  • I devinetively had some principles. Anyone who stated that they are rightwing, believed in some form of conspiracy theories, looked like they just need someone’s money to spend, whose profile looks like whose whole personality is how they look like and people that I simply didnt thought looked attractive did not get a right swipe. This sorted out about 20% or so of the people the Algorithm showed to me. The rest got a right swipe, because they looked somewhat attractive and had no really obvious dealbreakers. They might have some things that I may not really like, but would be willing to overlook (e.g. smoking).


  • I used them for maybe 3/4 of a year to one year (dont know exactly) and it was the biggest time waste I have been part of. I usually spent about 1 hour per day swiping all potential partners the app suggested me. I swiped almost everything right, as long as they did not have any obvious red flags or they didnt looked like a person I could be attracted to. I had the radius set to 50km what meant, that I was getting potential partners from 2 larger Citys.

    The result of this about 1 year of using the app was probably like 10 matches, maybe 2 actually good chats that resolved into me having to pull everything out of the others nose in like 3 days. That’s it. No exchanging numbers, no dates nothing. It only made me feel more lonely due to my “obvious incapabilities to attract a partner” (of course not, but that’s what it felt like). There devinetively is a chance of them working (one of my best friends found his GF on a dating app), but that’s like saying “theres a chance to win in the lottery, and it could be you who wins it”. It is not impossible for the apps to work, but for the majority of people dating apps are an absolute scam that are actively hurting you. After realising, what a time waste these apps are I just decided to give up on dating, because there is a zero percent chance of me actually being able to find a partner in real life. I never dated, I dont know how to do it and at this point I honestly do not fucking care. If by some miracle I might get the chance to get into a relationship I won’t say no, but until then I’m fine the way I currently life.