A week ago, my mom figured out how to get through my bedroom door lock: using a screwdriver. I’ve heard her on a phone call with my uncle, and he showed her the trick. Whenever I don’t respond or give in, she could just insert the screwdriver through my lock, and bam, she can come in whenever she wants to.
I’ve searched online for getting around this, and I’ve decided on:
- Getting a lock. (or something that (b)locks the door)
- Using a portable lock. (Addalock, any others)
- Using a doorstop.
- Make your own lock. (like using a fork)
But then I thought that my mom would still enter using the screwdriver. The handle’s loose, so she knows she’s able to barge in. I could be wrong, though.
My door jamb has a dent, so she has a peephole to look in and might figure out why the door wouldn’t open.
Should I be able to get a lock? If not, are there any alternatives or other solutions?
Edit: Wanted to make a quick edit. My mom shows narcissistic traits, and would barge in the room for her own entertainment. I’ve tried asking her to leave a few times, even discussing about it with her, but she isn’t seeming interested to understand or listen. I would stay as far from her in my room in order to not attract her.
That doesn’t help you, but: My kids were 4 when they figured that out - by themselves.
Assuming you’re old enough that your mom doesn’t have to worry about you cutting your hair with the paper scissors or something like that this behaviour doesn’t sound normal - and while it might be useful in the short term to be able to properly close your door it’ll most likely just shift conflict in the longer term, and you’ll have to look into actually resolving that. We have a saying in IT - ‘you can’t solve social problems with technical solutions’. This might apply here.
This assumes the mother is at all interested in resolving it. The narcissistic autocratic “my house my rules” types don’t really care.