A week ago, my mom figured out how to get through my bedroom door lock: using a screwdriver. I’ve heard her on a phone call with my uncle, and he showed her the trick. Whenever I don’t respond or give in, she could just insert the screwdriver through my lock, and bam, she can come in whenever she wants to.

I’ve searched online for getting around this, and I’ve decided on:

  • Getting a lock. (or something that (b)locks the door)
    • Using a portable lock. (Addalock, any others)
    • Using a doorstop.
    • Make your own lock. (like using a fork)

But then I thought that my mom would still enter using the screwdriver. The handle’s loose, so she knows she’s able to barge in. I could be wrong, though.

My door jamb has a dent, so she has a peephole to look in and might figure out why the door wouldn’t open.

Should I be able to get a lock? If not, are there any alternatives or other solutions?

Edit: Wanted to make a quick edit. My mom shows narcissistic traits, and would barge in the room for her own entertainment. I’ve tried asking her to leave a few times, even discussing about it with her, but she isn’t seeming interested to understand or listen. I would stay as far from her in my room in order to not attract her.

  • TORFdot0@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Find a new place to live. Or a new place to store valuables

    If your mom is a narcissist as you claim, she isn’t going to start respecting your privacy just because you got a new lock. If you have things you don’t want to be discovered then don’t store them at your parents’ home.

    There is an argument to be had about granting children, especially older children, the expectation of privacy but that isn’t going to convince your mom. Anything you do to try to modify your bedroom door is just going to aggravate the situation further without resolving things.

    My suggestion would be to try to talk to your mother or store your bong (just an example) at your friends house.