• fosho@lemmy.ca
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    1 year ago

    it’s interesting that everyone here is a victim. why isn’t anyone owning up to being the bully? the ratio is highly suspect.

    personally, I was mostly the victim. but I can think of a small number of times where I punched down the pecking order because that’s how I poorly dealt with the abuse by the real bullies.

    I wish I had been encouraged to fight back by my parents. unfortunately the emotional abuse at home fully contributed to the lack of self esteem required to do so.

    • countflacula@lemmy.ca
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      1 year ago

      Do you think your bullies would spend time on Lemmy? Much less admit they were bullies on a thread like this? I think there might be a bias at play here.

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      1 year ago

      I will admit that I have probably been the main villain if not an asshole in different people’s stories.

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      1 year ago

      Well, speak of the devil. I was both. When one suffers, it is the way of life to spread suffering.

      What would you like a person like me to say? That I was wrong? Sure. Do I still want to beat the everloving shit out of the people that perpetuated that against me first? Sure. Would I understand the guy that I was bullying to do it to me? 100%.

      I suppose it would make it even. Regardless, the meme is applicable. Teachers knew and ignored the fact that I was bullied, but fuck me if I ever stood up for myself.