Most of the time the reason that people want to be private is to stop mainstream tech companies from gathering their data to use for targeted ads. But I’m kind of cuirous to see what are others motives for wanting to be private online.
Most of the time the reason that people want to be private is to stop mainstream tech companies from gathering their data to use for targeted ads. But I’m kind of cuirous to see what are others motives for wanting to be private online.
I don’t know man… It kinda sounds like you are doing something suspicious if “only you should have the right to decide what others know about you” because if you are not doing anything malicious and the other person has no malicious intent. Then I don’t quite see what the problem is?
Why would it be suspicious? I think this is a question concerning boundaries. If privacy is the right to self, privacy is something that defines the boundary between a person and the outside world. To excercise the right to decide what others know about you means to define time and time again what is inside (or part of) your private life and what is outside it. (of course, this is a fuzzy boundary) And for someone else to learn information about you without your permission is at most a forceful destruction or at least a complete disregard of that boundary. A house is like this “self”, or private life: Would you like for someone to stand at you window at all times, looking at everything you do, even if you have nothing to hide?
My view on the mattar is the person standing at my windows at all times would likely not have good motives for him watching me. Equally people form their own opinions about you regardless of what you hide. You can’t control the view they hold of you, so don’t bother trying. I feel we’ve gone a little off topic. But my point is this; its all a question of motives, the reason I would be unconfortable with someone standing at my windows at all times is because I would question his motives for doing so.
I feel like this discussion isn’t really going anywhere and we still haven’t really answered what your motives of privacy really are, have you even asked that question yourself? Why do you want to be so private? Why is what you are hiding so important to you that you go through so much effort to actually stop people from knowing of it?
Don’t get me wrong I used to be really into privacy until I realised that its mostly just a waste of time and an illusion at best, because who and what are you trying to hide? Its just undue paranoia most of the time. Although a really good book on the mattar is Future crimes https://futurecrimesbook.com/ if you want to read.
Let me play devils advocate and say that what if nobody had malicious intent with others data. Why would there be any need to respect the privacy of your home? If you don’t want that surely you are doing something suspicious… What are your real motives for not wanting me to look through your window every day?
I WANT TO BE MYSELF WITHOUT FEELING PRESSURED BY OTHERS - Not by my family, neighbors, coworkers/clients, peers, government, or by anyone in the future who looks at those of us who grew up in the past with strong judgment. So often, we are NOT given the opportunity to explain ourselves before we are condemned/judged by others.
that’s an interesting point.
Thanks for the book recommendation, I’ll look into it. And you raise some good points.
But, if we’re talking about motives, why would you question the motives of someone standing at your window, and not someone(or something) that’s trying to learn as much as possible about you online? (I was wrong before, I guess: the motives are questionable as well) Also, someone standing at your window is apparent. Using Google or Facebook, you don’t really see how much they learn about you, I think that’s what’s makes me the most unconfortable.
About my motives: First, I am not really a privacy nut, I just like to think about this stuff. I try to use alternative services, but still use Messenger because all my friends do. And I don’t want to be so private, I just want to be private. I think privacy is important to think about because it’s useful to understand the services and platforms millions of people use, and how they can maybe misuse the power they wield. So no, I don’t really put much effort into it, and I don’t think I should, I think regulators should hold the services that essentially spy on people accountable. I don’t want to always hop on the next, most secure platform or app, I just want to be able to use programs which treat their users with respect.
Yeah you raise some good points. Its the misuse of data that is quite significant, because a pen can be used to write stuff or be used to stab someone, its how its used that mattars, but that doesn’t make the pen a bad thing. Equally giving data to a company isn’t bad, but the company can misuse that data to manipulate you in very suttle ways that you are not aware of.
Generally I think that this is the number 1 reason people want to be private because of ‘big tech’ etc. But I made this post because I felt like there were people following privacy and becoming as private as possible to what end?
However devils advocate here, tech companies like Microsoft and Google do bring an amazing service. To this day there is no other search engine as good as google period. Microsoft and Google both offer amazing email services that just work.
I feel that the long term solution is to decentralise a lot of this stuff out and have it so that we don’t need central services like Facebook and google, but have a decentralised internet as it was originally intended to be. That is the reason I enjoy Lemmy so much because its federated and decentralised and open source so we can verify if there are backdoors or if lemmy place hidden trackers in their website we would know, we can also see the bans that lemmy makes on the platform and see if we agree with them or not (i’m sure there are other good things about it, but I haven’t spent the time to research all of them). If we can have a decentralised internet with all the services and things like that we would be able to take away power from the elite that don’t have our best interests at heart and give power back to the people (democracy) which is also why I enjoy crypto so much because that really is decentralised (alhtough a lot of bitcoin miners are owned by microsoft in USA, so i was told).
Yes, giving your data to someone is not necessarily bad. Consent plays a huge role here, and is why privacy online is a concern: people don’t really know how and to what extent they are being tracked, and service providers are not eager to educate them. The cookie popup for example, rather than being informative, is an annoyance at best. So I think educating people about security and privacy concerns online is a crucial component in being able to change malicious practices.
And yes, a decentralized internet would be great, but unfortunately to me seems like an utopia rather than a possible reality. You are also right about the services – in many cases the service is actually really good. It really is a complex question which does not have black and white answers.
If you have kids, then people know you and your partner had sex, but would you want a video camera or audience to watch you two have sex each time? People might easily see you are over-weight, but would you want those fat-pics of you posted in your office or for all of your neighbors to see - or do you feel better that your sags and bags are somewhat concealed under clothes? I eat junk food sometimes, but if there are too many containers of junk food in the trash can, i take it out before roommates see what a pig I’ve been. Many people admit to family and friends to sometimes watching porn, but few of us want people to see the exact content we watch.
I really like what @ericbuijs@lemmy.ml said. Privacy as an expression of your self is a neat perspective I haven’t considered before. In a way, your “self” is the only thing in your life you really can control. I think it’s even more complicated than that, since I don’t think we really have a single self to begin with (or rather a single expression of your self). I have my (semi) professional self at work, the (very) professional self when I deal with customers, a different self when I’m with my family, and even different selves among different friends. It’s not that I’m afraid to “be myself”, but each context is a different social framework that requires different interactions. It’s a fun thought experiment to think about what would happen if everyone knew everything about everyone, but humans and emotions are complex and and imperfect and wonderful! Living in the real world of right now requires that I have control over the expressions of my selves. I don’t think it comes down necessarily to any malicious intent (though that may be part of it), but rather the social framework for a given interaction. This is something I’ll need to think about more though since it’s an interesting perspective on privacy.