So now that we’ve established how many of you would suck a dick for your specified price, how many of you would let another man suck your cock? Would you let him do it for free or would you charge for it? Would you let him do it for free but only under certain conditions? Lemmy know what you think! 😉 (FYI not looking for hookups)
i am gay and i have always struggled with this question, because i have absolutely sucked straight men off. but like… that’s not straight is it?
Is gayness in the act or the desire? I know gay men who had sex with women before they came out of the closet. Did that make them straight?
Well, to be more accurate, you sucked off men who claimed to be straight. There’s a lot of wiggle room in that.
Its not.
I had said in the past “Well it would be a blowjob, and I’m not giving it so that doesnt make me gay” - because despite knowing people who were bi, for some reason my brain didnt acknowledge being in as an option for me.
I’ve resolved that since, but only for a few years now, and I’m in my mid fourties.
It’s not straight. Those men are closeted bisexual.
What if they’re only interested in receiving oral from other men but nothing else? That’s not exactly bisexual
How is it not bisexual?
Lack of attraction.
That’s where I’d draw the line in sand.
I find labelling of sexual preferences a bit tedious. Having labels can be handy when they serve as a shorthand, but sexual preferences have all kind of identity-building connotations.
So, personally I think someone who identifies as a man is attracted to other men for any kind of sex, that’s gay. Having preferences for what particular kind of sex doesn’t change that.
I know a lot of people don’t feel that way. For a lot of cultures and people what makes it gay is a man being poked with a dick, whether that’s in your mouth or ass. That’s why when they are trying to figure out risk for diseases they ask if you’ve had sex with a man, not if you’re gay.
Thats an extremely binary view, and sexuality doesnt work like that, its a spectrum.
Now I would say they are not straight, but it does not make them now explicitly gay.
Sorry I should have just deleted that rambling text before posting, but oh well.
To be clear when mention gay there I just mean sexual attraction to the same sex, independent of any attraction or not to the other sex (or non-binary people or whatever).
Personal experience but
Most men are a good amount bi, at the very least curious enough to at least try
Most don’t let themselves, can’t enjoy something that dogma doesn’t allow, now can we?
If the straight guy closes his eyes and imagines I am a girl while I suck his cock, I’d say that’s still technically straight, since homosexuality is about the attraction not the act. Still a fellow sodomite tho.