I suppose the quotation marks are pretty loaded these days…

But honestly, when you’ve lived on the other side of things… as bad as it gets in the “West”… many people will still sacrifice everything to make their way there, where a better life might be found… even if many of those countries are actively trying to keep immigrants out… 🫤

And nothing will be done.

I’m so tired, just trying to keep up.

I don’t know how any Gazans can bear to live under this.

They need help. They need hope.

How long must this continue? How long will the “free world” continue to allow this?

😫

I hear that welcoming migrants is a great way to address this problem…

This is rather wholesome. 💜

😝

It’s possible you’re conflating asocial and antisocial behavior.

Humans are social creatures and we communicate in more than just words. How you respond to people, or in this case don’t respond to people, says a lot to them. What the other person interprets may or may not be true. Frankly, humans are prone to storytelling so they have a tendency to presume the worst. If you aren’t reinforcing otherwise with your words and your behavior, then they will naturally become upset.

I’m really really glad to hear that you have people in your life that seem to care about you, ask about how you are, and provide various things for you. However, even though you may not feel like it for whatever reasons, refraining from reciprocating that behavior will starve out those relationships.

Human relationships are always quid pro quo. If you are receiving, then you will be giving something back. It doesn’t have to be one-to-one and not usually immediate.

If you want relationships of any kind to be healthy, then reciprocating when people invest into you is important. Again, it doesn’t necessarily have to be in the same way or amount, but there does have to be a response. Without that, the relationship becomes unhealthy or eventually over.

On a side note, I’m really proud to see you being forthright and honest with your mental health. I know it’s more commonly spoken about these days, but it can still be hard. I hope that you’re getting help as you navigate through it. You might find that some of the internal healing work you do will also positively affect the very relationships you are talking about in this post.

May your tomorrow’s be better than each today. 💜

For the first question, you might find answers more helpful if you ask the aforementioned people that you’re actually interacting with.

And regarding the second question, it’s probably related to the first. Young people who grew up texting and using social media have adopted abbreviated writing styles. Older people using the same technologies tend to retain more proper forms. Of course, people aren’t monoliths. There’s plenty of young people writing in complete sentences and plenty of older people utilizing short form words.

I tell her to be nice and to love her stuffies, but even the ones that are designed to be super tough somehow always manage to offend her and get their guts pulled out.

Stuffies do not survive long when my dog gets them…

FYI: @davel@lemmy.ml I figured out the problem and edited the OP to reflect that

I removed all my blocks completely. No change.

I also need to update my previous post to you because when I view the community while logged off from lemmy.ca, I can see all the recent posts.

It’s something specific to my account it seems…

From my phone browser via the webui:

When viewing while logged into Lemmy.ca, the second link (accessing the community from my instance) does NOT show any recent posts.

The first link takes me to the community at lemmy.world (not from my instance and logged out of Lemmy.world) and it shows all recent posts.

For this reason, I would say that it’s not synced. BUUUUTT…

If I go back to lemmy.ca, log out, log back in with my alt account… the two links you provided show all posts synced.

I think this is the kind of behavior that exists when you’ve been banned from a community 🤷🏽‍♂️, except I haven’t been banned.

I’m really confused.

Because people don’t realize refurbished printers is a thing?

Safe from what?

And who says it’s important?

Communication is important, but how you do that is always going to vary. “Flirting” is just one way to communicate.

“Being yourself” does not preclude personal development. Personal growth and learning skills, even something like flirting, is part of becoming a more well-rounded version of yourself.

Thing is, flirting isn’t something you need to master or even be great at. As a matter of fact, being “terrible” at flirting can be just as effective.

The goal of flirting is to engage in social interaction that expresses interest and attraction.

I think you’re putting too much pressure on yourself. You probably shouldn’t even call it flirting. Put that notion aside. Focus on intentionally communicating your interest.

If you’re interested in a person, then find ways to express that. It can be light-hearted and flirtatious, but being terrible at flirting works too. So do it terribly. You’ll eventually figure out what doesn’t help communicate your intent. Flirting is a gentle and indirect way of expressing that intent. Many people are more direct and it can work for them too. Being more direct may be better for you. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Regardless of what you do, be respectful. Be playful if you want. But most importantly, communicate your intent and desire.

To collude with billionaires in maximizing environmental damage.

Job security, you know?

I mean, it’s pretty unique. I’ve never heard of another person with a cartoon nose. Good for you!

Watch some romance movies… even… Hallmark movies. Emulate no more than 20% of what you see and that will be sufficient. Too much more than that will cause an aneurysm. And realistically, normal human interactions are not nearly as concentrated as those movies. It’ll give you the basics.

In other words, you show romantic interest by showing romantic interest.

Ha! To which they will then melt in my arms and kiss me and tell me just how wonderful I am… only to then punch me in the arm and say… “now tell me what I can get you, dammit, or I will hurt you more!” 😁

It’s a great idea. I did nearly the same exact thing some years ago. It helped a lot. It grounded me. Rejuvenated me. I want to be there again. TMI: since then, life has blown up… more than once… and left me pretty mangled. Hobbies and those life giving things dissipated. Mental health declined again. I started drowning in work and survival. But slowly I’m getting into a better place. I miss those walks with camera in hand. Watching life unfold around me. Capturing creatures living life in all their funny ways. Yes, I quite liked that. And while it may not happen in time for my bday, that craving is there and that’s a good thing. I hope you’re able to spend more time in the here and now, with camera in hand. 💜