You aren’t alone. My relationship is very similar but we are wlw. I still love her but I know I certainly need more in the relationship department because her chronic pain and mh means she ends up gaming all day when I stopped being as much of a gamer years ago. I will sometimes just ask her to do mundane tasks on my computer for me so I feel like we are doing something together. I have a really active social life but she has a couple of friends she socialises with every so often.

I’ve been thinking about it for a while so I thought adding my two cents from a similar position might help. I think being poly might be the right answer for me and taking over the room of another housemate when they leave.

I feel really fulfilled by my friends but I feel lonely in my relationship. I suppose that the difference is that it feels like some of will do cute little things to help me without being asked when my gf feels like she needs prompting to do anything more than look up from her screen and tell me she loves me.

I’m disabled myself and elements of my disability frustrate her too but she says that she is upset with the disability and not me and I feel the same towards her. I know that if she would pay enough attention to the real world that she would remember how much pain she is in, but I can’t stop myself feeling lonely despite that.

I don’t want to feel like I’m butting in on your post with this, I thought being upfront about it might make you feel a little less alone like your post did for me. :)

That assumes that it is a neutral act and an act based souly on who hit first. It leads to some serious moral consequences to work based on the schoolyard politics of, “But miiiissss, he hit me first”

Since 112ish, I’ve had a bug where it keeps reloading rapidly. Forcing Xwayland makes it a little bit better but it is far from completely fixed

Does anyone remember Yogventures?

Putting it out there for someone to do this for cops in the UK. I can’t run infrastructure but the cops terrorise out local community and constantly refuse to identify themselves/turn off their badge cam.

I’m opposed to violence, however I define it differently to how the state does. One example of violence that wouldn’t be considered by the state to be violence is calling the cops.

Violence is a hierarchy and as soon as you understand that, the more you understand it as a meaningless term.

I think I’m just gonna tag you as a misogynist with my Lemmy client and move on with my day. Maybe less demanding women debate you in the marketplace of ideas might be good for you. This is weird and beggy.

Are you actually trying to say you are not a misogynist while simultaneously calling a woman hysterical? Did you know that the Greek word for womb is “hystera”?

Christ - some of these replies are exactly what a lot of women talk about when we say that Lemmy has a misogyny problem.

Blokes really don’t recognize how much harder shit actually is for women, overall. It would be lovely to just sit on a bench for 5 mins without a stranger coming to chat me up, or if people would stop crediting men for my work when they don’t even ask for it.

I know someone who does business IT where the ISP were trying to charge a huge amount to connect fibre to one of their sites. Thankfully, they had another site a few miles away that was already connected. They found it was cheaper to stick a pole on each building with an omnidirectional WiFi antenna. Apparently the speeds weren’t too bad even though ping often left a little to be desired.

If you want a detailed response to this, reading Michel Foucault would probably be better than anything I could really say. He is a bit of a weirdo (putting it likely) like plenty of philosophers though.

I think that is where it feels iffy to me, personally. Also, like, since you are asking this, there is a feeling of there being a power imbalance from you already so I would avoid it.

Don’t go off what people say on here. Men on here are particularly weird and misogynistic - and I say this living somewhere where I frequently get catcalled within 30 secs of stepping through the door.

For those who aren’t in the loop, if you like to use OSS, this isn’t strictly open source. It is source available.

Its down to preference but it is someone’s job at the end of the day. It takes work to create, edit and dignity. You are essentially dining and dashing from a small independent restaurant. Its the same reason why shoplifting from a chain isnt as bad.

The funny thing about “plainclothes officers” is that they never wear plain clothes. There is a spot that the cops like to stop and search people fairly near me and they are always painfully obvious. I had one flash his badge at me when he was wearing a giant north face jacket over a very visible stab vest the other week.

I’ve given this a lot of thought but I’d love to meet oppressed historical figures. I’d love to see people autonomously standing up for themselves like at Stonewall and The Battle of Cable Street. I assume that they are both more brutal than anything I can imagine but it blows my mind to realize how many people came together.

I’d love to see the parts of town where the post-WW2 “slum clearings” took place. Gentrification is having a real impact here at the moment and its a shame. We recently lost a shabby 80s community centre and the building that replaced it never got the community back. Honestly, I just want to walk around here before the cars arrived.

A stranger thing that I would want to see is the old wood-paneled stock on the Metropolitan line of the London Underground in service at its peak. I generally would just want to explore transport systems as a whole. Getting to ride a 1910s tram on the street would probably feel surreal.

Urgh. Why do they always have to ramble about AI?

Don’t be a bell end

Summit

Ngl if you pirate indie porn you are scum. Most people who make it aren’t well off.