My first experiences on the internet were riddled with misogyny. As a child, I was told I am lying about being a girl and didn’t sound like one. I had many guys tell me “tits or gtfo” when learning I’m a girl, usually after they asked me if I was a girl. I tried playing some multiplayer team games online and was hazed once they found out I was a girl, multiple times. I refuse to play those games now. Even as an adult, I’ve had gamer guys think I’m great until they learn I’m a feminist, then the hate comes back. I’ve dated an adult man who belittled me for playing Sims because people with real lives play games like Overwatch. At least mainstream media felt like there were more women around, lemmy just feels more centered for men :/

I get that men are terrified about false rape accusations, even though there is an extremely low chance of it happening, they are afraid. When someone talks about sexual assault, in their mind they feel they need to defend themselves by bringing up false accusations because in their mind it will discourage this crime, bring light to real victims, and thus protect themselves. I’m not a man but this is what I’ve been told. Then you have victims, who simply want their rapist and other rapists to face justice. They often know others around them who have also been sexually assaulted. When they talk about sexual assault and someone else brings up false accusations, it feels like they don’t actually care about the victims and just want to soapbox about false accusations, stealing the spotlight. They might even be a toxic part of the manosphere.

The nature of the crime means it is usually the victim and the perpetrator alone and not in public, and the victim is more likely to know who the assaulter is. It can be a family member, friend, partner, etc. There usually isn’t much evidence to prove sexual assault. So we have a problem. As you said, you don’t believe a hefty amount of these sexual assaults should have laws enforced on them. I don’t have a solution, other than a suggestion that people should be more empathetic towards victims. And not ask questions like yours to victims.

Not sure if you were just reiterating, but yes it is depressing. It takes bravery to step forward knowing that it can cause further damage to oneself. Not just socially but mentally. I don’t have a perfect solution to this. But when the perpetrator is Trump, I doubt justice is going to happen.

I absolutely agree. If rape kits are made, they can be backlogged and then degrade, which is extremely depressing to think about.

Threads like this need to be followed up with eyebleach (a community full of cute animals and such).

Lemmy is mostly men, it is hard to share any other perspective. SA is hard to get a conviction in. If there isn’t physical evidence like semen, then the victim is called a liar. If there is semen evidence, then the victim is called someone who regretted their choice and is now getting back at the person. (And this is assuming the perpetrator was male, there can be female perpetrators too). A lot of victims do not come forward about what happened because they don’t want to be called a liar and labeled a pariah publicly. The absolute shame and rejection when someone doesn’t believe you. This subject is pretty sensitive to me and lemmy just really, really disappoints sometimes.

It does work with VPNs that are approved.

https://real-debrid.com/vpn

Disabled people are not going to all agree on everything, especially when they are pretty diverse. Some will like gen ai, and some will not.

when a website password breeds

I didn’t know passwords could reproduce, is that how password generators work? /j

“Permanently locked bootloader” means you can’t unlock the bootloader so you can flash a different OS. If you can’t unlock the bootloader, you can’t flash. A lot of phones are like this, like Samsung’s galaxy series. I got really fucked by Samsung with the S10 because of this. You need to buy a specific type of phone and security patch if you want to flash. I went with the Pixel bought unlocked from Google so I could use GrapheneOS. It was very easy to unlock the bootloader and then relock it back. I noticed you said the pixel does not have good reception in your country, I would look more into this before going with it if this is the case.

😮‍💨 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Computer_widow

@idunnololz@lemmy.world

I use !summit@lemmy.world. It has keyword filters for posts and comments, handy for triggers. It also has a history function so I can search for a post I saw earlier easily. It displays everything pretty perfectly, you aren’t going to have problems like spoilers not displaying correctly. It was one of the first apps to get moderator tools, so you can check reports. You can also tag users. There’s a lot of customization options and gestures. And all of it is free and the app is still being updated with an active dev.

As others said, you would have to message the mods of the community or admins of the instance that banned you. Looking at your modlog, I don’t think these can all be overturned since some are too blatant. But I guess you won’t know until you try. In the future, only participate in communities you are interested in after having read the rules, otherwise it just seems like your intentions were to troll.

You can view your modlog here:

https://lemmy.ca/modlog?page=1&actionType=All&userId=334067

Last release was in mars

Which tech billionaire flew the dev team into space for this? /j

Considering that Bethesda refused to roll in the community bug fixes with their rereleases of Skyrim

IIRC Bethesda lets mod creators own the rights to their mods so Bethesda can’t just roll in the bug fixes into the actual game without the mod creator’s permission. I know the Skyrim unofficial patch is ran by a team (Arthmoor) obsessed with DMCA’ing other people as well as just being dicks in general. Some of the “fixes” aren’t really fixes and just what the team personally thought how the game should be.

Margaret Atwood used real life events and history in The Handmaid’s Tale. She didn’t invent it or make it up, she used inspiration from events that already happened or were happening while she wrote the book. You are just seeing what happened in history, in the past, happen again in the present.

https://www.penguin.co.uk/discover/articles/margaret-atwood-handmaids-tale-testaments-real-life-inspiration

I’m so sorry for your loss. 🫂 Grief comes in waves, the stages of grief aren’t linear or sequential. Give yourself plenty of time to rest, heal, and process.

I recommend against Hawaii. It’s not exactly self sustaining since there are too many people living there. Housing/rent is crazy high so there are many homeless. Everything is much more expensive. Jobs can be hard to find. The islands are sinking. Storms still hit every season. Depending on the island, you may be dealing with volcanic eruptions and vog. And I do believe their coral reefs are bleaching. It sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Then factor in the locals, they only want locals living there and to restore their Hawaiian Kingdom, #GoHomeHaole. Best to pick somewhere else.

Wikipedia lists this as the original:

When the Nazis came for the communists, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a communist.

When they came for the trade unionists, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a trade unionist.

When they locked up the Social Democrats, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a social democrat.

When they locked up the Jews, I kept quiet; I wasn’t a Jew.

When they came for me, there was no one left to protest.