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Cake day: June 6th, 2025

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  • So, a few years back, when my kid was 13 or so, I used to send them memes over discord. This was 6 or 7 years ago now. And I thought, I’m a cool mum, 'cause I use discord to talk to my kid, and I send them memes.

    And one day, I asked my kid if I’m one of the cool parents, 'cause I send them memes, and they said “You send me old memes”. Their friends thought I was cool but my kid? Nah, not so much…

    In all seriousness though, my kid is 20 now, and I have a great relationship with them. Don’t read too much in to it. I don’t think there’s any winning with young teens and pre teens. You’ll never be cool in their eyes, and I think we just have to find our peace with that :)





  • I use PieFed rather than lemmy as my default these days, but the answer is the same for both. I love that they’re community driven, community hosted federated spaces that let people find the experience they want, and that they’re strongly resistant to corporate takeover and centralisation.

    What I don’t like so much is the increase in debate bro type folk that are slowly drifting over from reddit. Of course, they’re at least partly dealt with by the things I mentioned earlier, but still, I wish we could undo some of the in your face debating attitudes that people have been trained to default to by toxic social media


  • I don’t like there is no way to get notification (subscribe to) a post to see new replies that come in after I’ve read the post for the first time…

    I’ve moved to PieFed now as my default instance instead of lemmy, and this is one of the main reasons why! And you can do it at the community level as well, to be notified when a new post is made to a given community













  • There is no tolerable amount of ads, because not only are they an awful experience, they explicitly drive user hostile growth and decisions in the future (ie enshitification).

    I used to pay for YouTube to avoid ads, before I got sick of Google and refused to give them any more money. Now I use a pihole and a browser based adblocker, as well as 3rd party front ends, because fuck Google. I don’t give a shit if I’m denying them income.