It’s interesting to me some of the relationships people have with their parents. I love my mom, but I don’t think I could ever tell her I was struggling. I never really have I don’t think.
Recently my job threatened to fire me, my friend abandoned me, and then I had to go on FMLA for mental health reasons as a result. Never told her a word.
Yeah OP can you expand on what this means exactly and what your intent is? Are you just planning to vent your traumas? I feel like you don’t need a specific group for that. You can do it anywhere online.
Update 2: The therapist I grilled today actually showed me the generic version of this book (not the anxiety one) unprompted so I think that’s a good sign. She said she works with the book with you.
Update…I sat down with it last night and it started ok but then I got triggered really badly and had to stop because I was really distressed lol.
I have access to hydroxyzine (which I honestly don’t use…it’s like Benadryl and was given to me in case I ever need trouble sleeping which I don’t). Don’t laugh but I was consulting chatgpt and it gave me the idea to try taking it before I do any of these DBT workbooks and stuff to help me relax. Gonna give it a shot and see what happens!
Yeah I’m going to be very direct in the next session about this. So I’m still giving her another chance, but I don’t know how well it will be followed through. I like her a lot as a person, but I’m not overly optimistic. I also didn’t entirely know how therapy really worked and what I needed in therapy before recently, so it’s been a ride. My therapist is also tied to my psych provider (who also may be mildly incompetent), so it’s a bit of a mildly tricky scenario.
I also went a bit “nuts” and scheduled intake sessions with 3 therapists within the next several days that say they practice DBT and are familiar with personality disorders in their “conditions they treat” area. I’m going to be blunt and direct with all of them. Like I said…in the past I didn’t know what I needed but I do now.
Problem is I’m going to have to suss out between these 4 people which can help me out before scheduling a million sessions with each.
Ok but wtf is this image it’s tripping me out
Goddamn I feel you, bro. I learned recently that the world is filled with assholes. Nothing you say or do is going to make people treat you like a human being if they weren’t going to to begin with.
This realization helped me internally to no longer hate myself, but I’m a bit stuck as to where to go from here. I guess I’ll be chatting with my therapist about this sort of thing tomorrow.
What’s your scenario exactly?
Hey listen, man. I know you’re freaking out rn (hopefully you’re freaking out less so at the moment), but you’re not necessarily gonna get out on an involuntary hold. Providers DON’T really love doing that. Be honest and tell them you have some degree suicidal ideation, but don’t say you have a plan to do it off the bridge right now. They don’t commit patients solely for suicidal ideation unless they are stupid. Most patients coming in for psych help feel this. It’s relatively “normal” and not something they are quick to “throw you in the brig” for.
If you have panic attacks, you should ask a provider about propranolol. It’s technically a blood pressure med but it also is given for panic attacks! It will decrease your heart rate and blood pressure which will make your heart stop racing and help you to stop panicking over it. You just take it when you’re panicking and wait a bit for it to kick in to calm down. Honestly might help you a ton! It’s not an addictive, feel good med like benzos at all whatsoever.
Baseline anxiety they might want to give you an SSRI and do therapy, but you don’t necessarily have to commit to that right away if it’s too much or too expensive to deal with rn.
What country are you in? If you’re in the US, I used some service called ZocDoc to find mine. I don’t think I even had to make an account to log in or to view stuff, just when you were actually gonna make the appointment. I called out of work one day because I was feeling really shit and decided to Google a psych provider.
Yeah it’s fucking daunting like you said. But with that website you can literally fill in the day you want to be seen and it will pop up with plenty of dates and times with a shitton of different providers. I just picked whatever was available same day and someone was actually able to see me then. I was surprised at how quick it was when it had never been that quick or simple before.
Now, this person ended up as a psych NP, not a physician. I think you’re not going to find a physician available on these websites. Idk if my NP is shit or not, but at least she has been seeing me and she was able to refer me to a therapist.
Idk if this wouldn’t work with your insurance tho. I think the website maybe tells you the insurances that the providers accept. My insurance is kind of shit so it didn’t entirely matter who I picked.
Anyway, best of luck, man, you got this.
Taking a break, obviously.
I have read a bit about HSP. Thing is, I don’t fit that either.
Supposedly HSP are also highly sensitive and easily overwhelmed by physical stimuli. Physical stimuli don’t ever overwhelm or bother me, just interrelational stimuli.
Are you ok at least? I know you said you were trying to get out of an abusive relationship?
I mean I’ve never had an issues with attention so it just doesn’t make sense to me. Obviously I have emotional problems, but that would be my only “ADHD trait” which is shared by many “conditions”. What other traits do you have?
Yeah some of my online friends seem to think I have a lot of trauma. But the weird thing with that is like… doesn’t literally everyone? Why would some be more effected than others? Some people are horribly abused and it makes sense…but many of us have a lot “milder” traumatic experiences.
I have been consulting ChatGPT (lmao) and it seems that guanfacine is the most common indicated thing for emotional dysregulation in complex trauma. I had never heard of it before.
Yeah thing is I’m totally fine when I have no triggers. But when I do, I go from 0 to 100 and have a hard time getting out of it (whether it’s an activated state more damaging to the self or a low energy state where I have a hard time physically walking or moving). I think my baseline leans normal to slightly depressed.
How do you feel about taking so many meds? I’m already a bit turned off from meds. I have always been of the opinion that while some people really do absolutely need them that a lot of people are over medicated.
After my negative experiences I kind of want to stop trying meds but I’m afraid to get off them after my last experience. I had a reaction in SSRI withdrawal that severely threatened my job. And now my provider has me on lamotrigine, but research that I’ve done seems like it does nothing for emotional dysregulation.
Do you know how much I would have loved to be blunted on SSRIs lol? My issue is too many and too strong emotions, so feeling less would have been helpful!
Oh and why are you taking both guanfacine and propranolol? They both seem to cause a “body calm”, so it seems odd you’re prescribed both.
Sorry for the long response lol
I appreciate this post and I think it’s really something to be said. We wouldn’t be who we were without our experiences, both bad and good. If we didn’t have these, we would be boring automatons. Our experiences are important to know and remember and grow from.
First, I am not a believer that trauma and hardships make anyone stronger. I think people throwing out that phrase are just using some flowery shit in the futile hope to believe that trauma doesn’t permanently affect us in a negative way. Fact of the matter is that it does. But that’s what makes each of us unique and that’s ok. It’s ok that we are all different and it’s ok that we have struggles.
What has helped me in life when I’m in a hard spot is knowing that change always occurs. It’s an inevitability in life. Sometimes it’s a change for the better and sometimes it’s a change for the worse, but it will change. And remembering that it has the chance change into something good like it has before is what helps me stay here in dark times.
Honestly this panel kind of confuses me.
So the person saw something…be it the perceived “answer” to their problems or something simply to be curious about.
But in seeking truth, they temporarily made their life significantly “worse” before it got to the same place as before they tried?
I don’t really understand. It seems like that means that you shouldn’t try to better yourself because it just makes things worse. Once they get better again, you will be back to where you started and not improved from the initial baseline.
What am I missing about this cartoon?
Wow are you me??? Do you identify as asexual? How have you navigated things this way? It’s for me…humans are social animals, right? So I have a very deep need for connection and intimacy…just not of the sexual or romantic kind. So it’s a struggle to be in such a fringe group of seemingly contrasting needs that aren’t compatible with 99% of the world.
Damn both of y’all getting really hardcore in the comments over some milk.
On Samsung phones, you can turn off your phone via the notification bar drop down.
That being said, I still prefer to have my power button bound to…well…power options lol.
Well luckily you can change this on Samsung phones. I’m assuming phones with the default bound to Google Assistant will be similar. Annoying and stupid, for sure, but at least you’re not locked in. I’m sure a lot of the general population won’t have the basic know-how to change it though, unfortunately.
Have you ever succeeded in the chemistry part?
I thought I did, but unfortunately no. It was pretty world shattering. I guess I know to be more careful now at least.