This person’s whole account is filled with bizarre stuff, really

OP, are you sure you are actually dehydrated? Are you getting kidney stones?

Most people don’t need to actively concentrate on drinking liquids. Your body will tell you when you’re thirsty. It’s a weird internet fad where people try to drink like a gallon of water a day. It’s not necessary. Your body tells you when it’s hungry and it tells you when you need to drink liquids. You’re not going to die from failure of the body signaling you to eat or drink.

Now, if you’ve had kidney stones, your doctor may tell you that you need to be drinking more water.

Beyond that, excessive water drinking is just the latest fad right now. It’s not necessary.

Right??? I feel like I’m taking crazy pills here that no one else is noticing the problem with that comment.

I’m not advocating on tolerating the intolerant. I’m simply not pro-eugenics…

It’s just odd to me that you are advocating for genetic control over others who want to use genetic control over others…

It’s weird because I feel like I have experienced that before. Before I was a daily coffee drinker, I would have a large one only very occasionally. Absolutely wrecked my stomach but sometimes I felt almost…euphoric? I always wondered if that was at all related to the coffee or was just random euphoria. Once I started drinking it more often, it never seemed to happen anymore.

You’d think I could just one day drink an amount excess of what I normally do, but that doesn’t seem to work either.

Is this ragebait?

Thank you. I’ve been on a journey this past year. So far I have finally started to accept myself and feel like my struggles and experiences are still valid and important. Been doing ok with it lately. But my coworker’s father has been in very ill health over many months and at this point he very well never make it back to being healthy. It’s slow and horrific and I fear he will die.

Obviously this is huge and traumatic and painful for her. I cannot imagine what she is going through.

But that little voice in my head is creeping back in telling myself that I should feel bad for making a big deal out of things in my life when people are going through shit like my coworker. Idk man.

Hmm I dunno then. Interestingly, there are actually a couple of drugs out there for women with low sexual desire if it bothers them in an attempt to help it. Idk how well they work and to my knowledge, I don’t know if there are any for men. I mean, obviously there are erectile dysfunction meds for men, but I don’t know that they impact desire.

Ah ok. If this happened in later life, then I wouldn’t say it has anything related to the asexuality label. Reads a bit more like depression to me tbh.

Did you used to be able to and now you can’t?

I’ve never in my whole life been able to feel pleasure masturbating (and so I’ve never tried sex). I only seem to get turned on in very niche circumstances, and it has always been fleeting. Been like that my whole life. I’ve always had FOMO with it. Yeah, there is the label “asexual” and blah blah blah…but it’s like every piece of media and every human in your life seems to be able to get this amazing rush of endorphins and I can’t. I just wish I could experience it.

I used my first floor pedal flushing toilet in a “fancier” than typical porta potty recently. Was a pretty nice thing to have. Maybe it’s not ADA (USA term for disability laws and regulations) compliant though?

Those worked for you? They have always been comically small such that they are barely usable, if at all.

I really don’t even think you need to go that far. All you need is a paper towel dispenser and a trash can next to the door. OR a door that pushes out when you’re inside, like you said.

But you don’t even need both of these, just one. My favorite is the latter.

Hands free sink and soap is nice, but unnecessary.

Hey, man, you’re trying and giving yourself grace. I think accepting yourself really goes a long way, whether you think so or not. Think about how much worse off you’d be if you didn’t.

I haven’t worked my way “out” yet either, but I do try to do some nice things for myself when I get that way, like you do. They haven’t solved things, but they add little niceties to my day. Honestly it’s almost as if we should treat ourselves like having recurring illnesses. What do you do if you have the flu? Do you try to do a zillion errands and run a marathon? No. You relax and let household chores slip a bit and get yourself some comfort items.

Unfortunately, calling out of work that often isn’t really feasible, so maintaining the ability to work is one thing that’s really unavoidable though.

If only I knew. I notice and catch myself heading towards a decline when it happens nowadays. I try to throw the therapy techniques at it that I’ve been taught, but I still can’t manage to lessen the spiral once I’ve started to enter it. It’s frustrating that I see it early too and my efforts feel for naught.

Where are you at in terms of therapy techniques you’ve learned?

I’ve honestly thought the same thing for a number of years. If you look into the research, antidepressants are consistently only marginally better than placebo. Moods change over time in general and with different environmental factors. So obviously at some point your mood improves, aided by placebo.

Despite me not really believing in them, psych meds are have been part of my journey. I hate that people think that I am not trying things and giving them a fair shot. I desperately am and continue to do so. It’s just that my life hasn’t really changed in a positive way. I really, sincerely try. Like with my therapy, I take extensive notes and do my best to utilize the techniques they give me. I even had the opportunity to use some successfully this past Friday! But it only seems to help sometimes despite me trying so hard.

I will say that I don’t think psych meds are totally bunk in certain specific scenarios. People with severe biological/organic derangements like schizophrenia and bipolar 1 disorder do massively benefit from psychiatric medications.

But the difference is that with these conditions, we are giving very high dosages of very powerful antipsychotic medications. Outside of that, the human mind doesn’t seem to operate that way. The previous thought about depression caused by chemical deficiency in serotonin has been disproven.

My issues are episodic and intermittent, making a lot of this stuff harder to tackle and “treat”.

Thanks for ignoring what I have to say and invalidating me, friend. I hope others treat you with the same kindness you have shown to me.

I spoke at length about how I tried very hard for a very long time at the “well known cure”. You ignored me and continued to say that that was the cure all when I literally said that it did not work for me.

I am offended because you completely dismissed this and just re-stated your original post. I am offended because it looks like you didn’t even read my response.

Here is a reduced format of what this sounds like.

You: X is the cure all

Me: I tried X and did not see a benefit. Here is my experience with it.

You: Cool story, bro but X is the cure all

If you can’t see how this is unhelpful and offensive, I don’t know what to do tell you.

Thanks for ignoring and dismissing my lived experience and inensive, sustained, consistent efforts. Not sure why age matters. I’m in my 30s.