nickwitha_k (he/him)

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  • Autistic things are sometimes truly depressing.

    Absolutely. And figuring out how to interact with people, especially if they are people that you may find attractive for now intimate companionship (not trying to assume) is something that isn’t generally explicitly taught. It probably should be though as doing so would significantly reduce interpersonal strife.

    If wanting or receptive to some advice from someone with AuADHD, I can share something that helps my brain in some in-person social situations. Sometimes, I reframe it as a “scene” where I am playing the character of Me. Not an exaggeration or non-authentic version of myself, more like “method acting”. This tricks my brain into being more present and not worrying about possible futures or cringey things of the past.

    People of this kind I’ve heard of seem very energetic. They may not always do the smartest thing, but they do it all the way in. Maybe that’s what’s wise.

    For their benefit and the role that they in company structures, it is one approach that pays out for some. And it is one that’s heavily promoted. However, it does effectively amount to gambling, albeit with minimal personal risk to the CEO, considering the level of connections and wealth required for the position, not to mention the Golden Parachutes that they have in their contracts, should they be replaced.

    Though then why be a corporate executive. Doesn’t seem anything desirable.

    Generally, it’s about accumulation of personal wealth and power, rather than actually believing in a given service or product. While to you and I, that may not seem desirable, to a certain percentage of the population, it is a principal drive. Unfortunately for us, and humanity at-large, there’s also a statistically-significant increase in the incidence of anti-social personality disorder in those who pursue such positions, compared to the population average.




  • I would say that it is cowardice to demand that others risk their lives while enjoying relative safety. And anyone attempting to force another to risk their lives for any reason is attempting to rob others of their agency over the most fundamental thing that any human has right to: their life.

    Maybe it’s nice sentiment for a healthy teenager or 20-something that isn’t responsible for anyone else’s well-being. However, is that reality doesn’t fit neatly into black and white; bravery and cowardice (and glory is just a lie that the rich and old tell the young and poor to get them to fight and die for them). Sometimes the braver and more just thing is to fulfill one’s responsibilities to their spouse, children, or dependents and ensure that they are able to live to help others. And other’s have had so much taken from them by a place that asking for them to also give their life is pure sadism.

    Beyond that, not everyone is physically, mentally or socially equipped for warfare, which is a good thing because humanity also needs farmers, doctors, teachers, and other builders.





  • Ah yes. “Equal opportunities” of the old days, like being told to be out of town by sunset or you’ll be lynched, or firing women who get pregnant, or redlining neighborhoods and adding restrictions too deeds to prevent the “wrong sort” of people (aka anyone not white) from moving in.

    “DEI Ideology” is a made-up boogie man that the far-right created as an excuse to discriminate against minorities and their allies, since being outright racist isn’t acceptable anymore. White conservatives are terrified of meritocracy.

    EDIT: In hindsight, this may have come across as an attack on the other commenter. That was not the intent, nor was the intent to accuse them of the horrific crimes of the past. These were used as used as examples of the reality experienced by minorities and women throughout US history, including the latter half of the 20th century to the present (to a lesser degree).












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    12 days ago

    In the US, “anti-DEI” is nothing but thinly-veiled discrimination. It is used primarily by people with the skills, personality, and sociability of a slice microwaved Wonderbread who need something to hide behind to avoid taking responsibility for their failings as well as by literal neo-nazis to try out a facade of legitimacy for their discriminatory actions while signalling their socio-political stance to their fellow neo-nazis.

    DEI stands for Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. It’s meaning is approximately:

    Diversity - Efforts should be made to ensure diverse representation in the workplace, especially for groups that have historically suffered from discrimination. To this end, when skills and capabilities are approximately equal, those from groups that have suffered oppression should be favored. This both strengthens the workplace by adding different perspectives and helps to “rebalance” to correct for centuries of discrimination that have robbed these groups of opportunities.

    A diverse workplace is stronger and more effective than a homogenous one, as proven by extensive sociological research.

    Equity - People are different and may need assistance to put them on equal footing when they are otherwise equally capable to those who have greater societal representation. This could be as simple as ensuring that someone who needs glasses to read without eye strain is able to readily able to get them. Or it could mean ensuring that someone who has gender dysphoria (which can cause extraordinary mental health problems like anxiety and treatment-resistant major depression) is able to get the treatment that they need.

    Inclusion - This is about the simplest of the three. Everyone should feel safe and valid in the workplace, regardless of their immutable characteristics.

    When people say that they are “anti-DEI” in the US, they mean that they want a society where the only people with power are white, protestant men. They want a society where white, protestant men are favored over other all other groups and considered the “default” choice for anything. And they want a society where people who are different from them are afraid to participate because they may be arbitrarily punished and/or lynched.

    When they claim that DEI is discriminatory and that they oppose discrimination, they are lying. Being forced to actually compete with others on even ground is terrifying to them and not being held above everyone else makes them think they are being oppressed.