I think OP has some trauma and just wants to vent.
I must say, in official matters it used to be common to put the last name first here in Estonia. Nowadays it’s less common, usually first name comes first. Are we “family first” or “individual first”? Idk, I think we’re kinda individualistic, but most people do still value family quite a lot.
Having been married to a Chinese for 15 years and lived there 2 years, I definitely saw the pressure family could put on an individual in China. Yeah you would need to vent once in a while. I hope you have someone IRL you can also vent to that gets it
That’s completely valid. I’ve done plenty of trauma dumping here on Lemmy. 99% of it about my ex wife and the shit she’s put me through (massive debt, constant manipulation, threats of suicide, making me feel guilty for literally everything wrong with the world, etc).
Sometimes you want to vent to someone, and you don’t want it to be anyone you know. Plus therapy can be expensive (even in my country despite having socialized healthcare, because all the therapists that work with the socialized healthcare system are booked until the next quarter after the end of the universe usually)
That’s completely valid. I’ve done plenty of trauma dumping here on Lemmy. 99% of it about my ex wife and the shit she’s put me through (massive debt, constant manipulation, threats of suicide, making me feel guilty for literally everything wrong with the world, etc).
I think OP has some trauma and just wants to vent.
I must say, in official matters it used to be common to put the last name first here in Estonia. Nowadays it’s less common, usually first name comes first. Are we “family first” or “individual first”? Idk, I think we’re kinda individualistic, but most people do still value family quite a lot.
Yes.
Lots of trauma.
Sorry, but venting is literally what the internet is made for lolz
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Having been married to a Chinese for 15 years and lived there 2 years, I definitely saw the pressure family could put on an individual in China. Yeah you would need to vent once in a while. I hope you have someone IRL you can also vent to that gets it
That’s completely valid. I’ve done plenty of trauma dumping here on Lemmy. 99% of it about my ex wife and the shit she’s put me through (massive debt, constant manipulation, threats of suicide, making me feel guilty for literally everything wrong with the world, etc).
Sometimes you want to vent to someone, and you don’t want it to be anyone you know. Plus therapy can be expensive (even in my country despite having socialized healthcare, because all the therapists that work with the socialized healthcare system are booked until the next quarter after the end of the universe usually)
Lol are you me. Except for me it was on reddit.
My trauma all happened after the API change that prompted the move to Lemmy. If yours happened before that, maybe we have the same ex lol