This is my first time writing a post (and in an internet forum).

Last year, I found about narcissism through a few videos on YouTube. I was able to come to a conclusion that my parents (and some relatives) were narcissistic. They had shown these traits throughout my childhood.

Since then, I’ve been trying to make a couple of changes in order to help with the situation with my parents (like moving to another room, grey rocking). But it had a few side effects.

I’ve had to sacrifice self-care for a few months in order to remain low-contact. I’ve tried subtly asking them to get self-care products so I cope with most of the things going around at our house (we had a bug/fly problem, and much more).

Nowadays it isn’t much safe and I want to be able to change that. Is there any possible way to still live with the situation (until you’re at an age where you can get a steady income, have some independence)?

  • banana_meccanica@feddit.it
    222·
    1 year ago

    Welcome to the internet. Begin able to change your reality demands the higher sacrife and nothing come easily. Isn’t about your age or the money, most of the time what we think is awful is just nothing compare to the sacrifice need it to change. Alot of people who run away from their abusive families ends to find the same reality with a lot more abusive jobs, roommates or landlords. So what the deal? World is just an hell and what we can do it? Nothing, existing for some times, eating potatoes, doing stuff, not aspecting the happy ending, and yes there is always a way to go on in any situation.

    • PeachMan@lemmy.one
      141·
      1 year ago

      Lmao what the hell kind of response is this? Looks like AI generated nonsense with spelling mistakes.

      • all-knight-party@kbin.cafe
        8·
        1 year ago

        It seems like English is not their first language. What I think they were saying is that escaping from a difficult living situation doesn’t always guarantee a better one since anyone you live with could be monstrously shitty, even if they arent your parents.

        They believe that you can make do where you are because life is hell and “what’s the point?” Not that I believe that absolutely dire worldview, but that seems to be their point.