For me, trying to respect boundaries tires me out more. idk why.

I struggled to respect boundaries as a child and early teenager. I think I still struggle to respect boundaries; but I am uncertain because I haven’t talked to an acquaintance in 7 months.

As a child and early teenager; I constantly hit on my female friends. (I don’t know why.)

  • I keep looking at people’s feet and it tires me. I don’t know if I developed a foot fetish; or it’s just a habitual behavior that I developed because I hate eye contact.

I know that ignoring boundaries can cause health problems long term.


My reasoning for this behavior:

  • I do get pressured by my parent to go to the store with them because, to me, they’re ~40 and may struggle to transport groceries.

  • After 8 years age, I used to be pressured to go to church; but that stopped when I became a teenager.

  • I only hungout with a friend at home once. Usually I only have acquaintances. Maybe I have less experience with friendship.

I think I feel pressured to go along with everything.

  • Amicese@lemmy.mlOP
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    3 years ago

    I just did a job application to Publix yesterday; my parent kept pressuring me to do it over a year. I didn’t receive a call of interview confirmation though.

    I’m uncertain if it was a good idea to cave in to her request. I don’t know if I should have held a boundary then; maybe it’s just anxiety.

    I don’t feel like bagging is a job for me; I disliked constantly being near people in school. How would changing the location to a Publix store change anything?

    • realcaseyrollins@narwhal.city
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      3 years ago

      That’s a good point. If you really, really did not want to apply to the job, and furthermore didn’t think it was something you should do, then yes, you should have held a boundary buuuuuuut that is far easier said than done lol