I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
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This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.
But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)
Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.
Thinks about 18 year olds in the shower
Mods get them!
thank you moderator
pick up the “analogue bag” trend. none of us older than you approve of the internet today: we had a different place to grow up in online. you will be the happiest and most hopeful person around- others will remember your calm and seek you for comfort.
stop using AI. period. your brain is developing, let it suffer the growing pains of wondering what to draw; of which source of knowledge learn from; how to compose your thoughts. you will be the most intelligent person around- ever increasingly so as years go by.
age old traps checklist: status, whoevers the most popular that moment, flips on the head as you grow up… everyone will Hate how the most popular person behaves now in a few years. be humble if you’re the popular one. at the sane time enjoy yourself: if you wanna indulge, indulge. saying stupid things from your heart is indulging. listening more than you speak is humble. that’s the secret to popularity that lasts beyond school years.
hug all around you. say hi to everyone around you, even those you don’t feel are cool- that you’d get bullied for associating with. that’s all we adults are doing: catching up on hugs and greetings, because it helps our mood and makes us feel meaningful wherever we have to be.
learn an instrument, or an art, or a craft, or a sport.
say no to drugs. period. your brain and body are fully developed when you are 26. then you don’t get as addicted and have an easer time finding a balance between partying and cozying up intimately in a couch. statistically you’ll end up regretful if not abusing drugs or being abused while doing drugs below 26 years old. i can attest. drugs don’t fix problems. they hide and let problems infect other parts of your life.
say no to sex that makes you feel pressured. as a guy i got status from chasing sex at your age, but if fucked me up to only be liked for being attractive. friends who cuddle are more important than acquaintances who fuck. one validates you as a human being and makes you feel seen. the other hollows you out while forcing you to become a person for the sake of others to feel seen.
be outdoors. pet animals. eat vegetables. drink water, not soda. drop food additives like “flavour enhancers” (e621) and aromas (vanilla aroma is made of literal cowdung and fossil fuels.) companies are not your friends: you’re as cattle to the companies, so yeet their brands. wear natural fibres and what you like.
welp i have more but idk if you’d read all
i have read it all. it was nice. thank you
oh also shower every other day, use deoderant without shit additives every day, change socks & underwear every day, make your bed instead of letting your mom do it (especially when your room smells like teen spirit), open a window to air out your room everytime before you invite somene over, learn to use a washing machine, learn to floss your teeth, use conditioner after you’ve rinsed your schampoo, learn how to clean the toilet after you & how to wipe yourself in the front (shaking isn’t enough among adults AND shaking excessively can easily damage your tube), trim your nosehair… i could go on with life lessons i’ve gathered that came to mind after reading your post. little details of adult life that are learnt in silence and not really spoken about in media outlets- but that got taught to me by older people and partners having an embarassing conversation about growing up. sucks to learn the hard way, worse to never learn these at all. domestic things regarding hygiene is rarely spoken about, but it’s so friccin interesting to learn about “how to do it right”. especially as a young adult who’ve never been taught to properly take care of yourself. like shaving with a barber’s knife, sewing back buttons and patching holes in clothes.
it may be more big and suspenseful times to live in but these boring hygiene habits apply to adults now since the beginning of the parliamentary society in the 1900s. hygiene is less prevalent in immature adults and more prevalent in mature adults. ik it sucks to do, i have diagnoses of all kinds, but it’s a sign of being a responsible adult to keep hygiene habits.
those cis-men who joke about men being beasts and cavemen aren’t more masculine, just derogatory towards other men’s potential. the manliest man isn’t scared or toothfloss and doing dishes. weaker cowards make up excuses to not take responsibility for their hygiene.
for deodrant part, i have skin problems due to which my dermatologist has forbade me to use perfumes and deodrants on my skin
fair and valid! :)
I just have one. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Wise people learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t live long enough to make all the mistakes yourself.
Be nice to others, be honest, keep out of trouble, don’t hang out with people who create trouble, and work on yourself.
Buy a plunger BEFORE you need one
On a related note, own a fire extinguisher before you need one.
Also learn how to use both before you need to.
Use sunscreen.
Brush your teeth and see the dentist at least yearly.
Just post the song for him.
Stop reading beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
i do. and it is best thing i could do. People call me girly for doing it but skincare is for everyone
The people who call you girly are idiots. Having said that, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being girly. I much prefer that to toxic masculinity.
Everybody else is just faking it, too.
And everyone is trying to muddle through, including your heroes. I think it’s good to keep this in mind; both to avoid feeling inferior for not having your shit figured out (because nobody has) and to be tolerant of people making mistakes – nobody’s perfect and everyone has issues besides getting your order exactly right.
Be chill with yourself and with other people.
Non withstanding there can be fundamental differences which no one tells you about (like neurodivergency) so if something feels very off, it might be.
Go to the dentist, ask them how to take care of your teeth for the next 80 years, and do it.
If that means cutting down on soda, or acidic espressos, or candy do it.
If that means buying an expensive electric toothbrush with better toothpaste do it.
yeah i got braces last year and it is worth it. definitely gonna do it
Exercise, have a salad for dinner sometimes, be careful who you date and keep friends you can trust to tell you when you’re fucking up.
Meaning can be found in pain and we all face that.
Sit down pee when you’re visiting a friend’s house. Double points if you do the same at your own house.
i do it yeah cuz I don’t have urinals in my surroundings
I’ve never understood the desire to stand while peeing. Sure; when you’ve got too - like outside - or if a toilet is filthy and you don’t want to touch it; but I’ve always been happy to take the opportunity to sit my lazy ass down for a minute. Plus I never have to worry about aim or cleaning up if I miss.
As someone who wishes someone had told me… Adults don’t know what we are doing either. It took me way too long to realize I’m not an imposter pretending to be an adult, we are all just kind of winging it.
As you grow older you’ll have seen more stuff and it will be a little easier, but I can attest I don’t have a clue what’s for dinner, just like I don’t know what new headache the next meeting will bring. Live life for life’s sake, the clock will keep ticking whether you’re ready or not.
Im probably not wise enough to give advice, but in general I think it’s while you are young that taking big risks is more worth the trade offs.
Im talking risks like career wise or investment wise, business wise, etc.
Specific advice like “save your money” and “enjoy your money while youre young” and “focus on education” and “forget education get a job fast” are all too nuanced and will likely get ignored anyway.
This “song” pretty much covers the important stuff.
wisdom is often wasted on the elderly. youth is fleeting as are most the mistakes you will make in life at this point.
the following advice is fitting unless you’re doing either of these two things:
- making babies
- taking a life (especially your own)
Live the three truths
- you will always make mistakes
- you will always hurt those you love
- you will always have regrets.
the older you get the harder it is to recover from these truths. Live your life to your requirements. By the time you’re closing in on your 30s, you should start to settle down and find yourself a quiet place to build your life for when you’re in your 50s or 60s.
in your 30s seek out happiness and contentment. this will be your foundation to accept your regrets and mistakes. own the mistakes you made along the way, accept them like you would a bruise or blemish on your body. in time they will heal, if only you accept them and move on.
in your 40s harvest your happiness and contentment. accept there are things you cannot do not because you haven’t or couldn’t but because you shouldn’t.
in your 50s store your happiness and contentment with the knowledge that nobody can take it from you, it’s yours and yours alone.
60+ feed your soul from your stores, using the memories you made along the way. depending on the life you have led, share in new memories with those around you. celebrate their successes as your successes.
if you’re lucky you will build lasting relationships along the way and will have many fond memories. you will inevitability have bad memories as well, but such is life.
personally I lost every single friend I have ever had. I never really recovered from it and now I have no friends. It’s one of many regrets, but I never let it spoil my happiness and contentment. I find fulfillment by other means like hobbies, crafting, and family.
I never wanted to be married or have kids, but it feels as if what you think is important today changes by tomorrow. don’t fight it, because you’ll only be fighting yourself.
life is full of surprises, learn to roll with the punches and adapt to the world. if you don’t, life will fucking kill you.
me neither wanted to be married or have kids
Here’s my rantomendation:
Don’t hit, mame or kill anybody ever. That includes when driving.
When driving pay attention to the road and only to the road. Ignore work or home or school problems. Don’t zone out.
Listen to your parents but don’t listen to the parts that limit you. Be gay if you are or straight or smart or whatever, be you. But listen to the good advice.
Fuck a lot
Eat healthy
Pay attention in school and learn from others. Be observant and follow in other people’s steps long enough to learn to blaze your own path.
Don’t get a school loan or max out your credit cards.
Work thru school in a light non interrupting way. Don’t get an 8hr job, just something part time.
Get that diploma and go find a job where they pay you for what you know. Work on something you like to do. Work to live, not live to work. But to get here, don’t skip steps…sweep the floor before you shoot for CEO.
Mourn your losses, everyone dies. Be happy with yours while you can. Family is everything and there’s not much more than your own personal desires beyond family. But if you don’t have kids by chance or by choice, still be happy. There’s plenty of people who choose not to have kids or be married or be in a relationship. Have bobbies. There’s a lot of you time towards the end part of your life. So Hobbies are good. Watching people is a hobby.
Be at peace. Don’t hate and help others not hate. Racism is the worse. So if you can help a racist person to accept others then that’s good.
what is mame?? apart from this question, this is quite detail and good
