I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
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This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.
But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)
Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.
thank you moderator
pick up the “analogue bag” trend. none of us older than you approve of the internet today: we had a different place to grow up in online. you will be the happiest and most hopeful person around- others will remember your calm and seek you for comfort.
stop using AI. period. your brain is developing, let it suffer the growing pains of wondering what to draw; of which source of knowledge learn from; how to compose your thoughts. you will be the most intelligent person around- ever increasingly so as years go by.
age old traps checklist: status, whoevers the most popular that moment, flips on the head as you grow up… everyone will Hate how the most popular person behaves now in a few years. be humble if you’re the popular one. at the sane time enjoy yourself: if you wanna indulge, indulge. saying stupid things from your heart is indulging. listening more than you speak is humble. that’s the secret to popularity that lasts beyond school years.
hug all around you. say hi to everyone around you, even those you don’t feel are cool- that you’d get bullied for associating with. that’s all we adults are doing: catching up on hugs and greetings, because it helps our mood and makes us feel meaningful wherever we have to be.
learn an instrument, or an art, or a craft, or a sport.
say no to drugs. period. your brain and body are fully developed when you are 26. then you don’t get as addicted and have an easer time finding a balance between partying and cozying up intimately in a couch. statistically you’ll end up regretful if not abusing drugs or being abused while doing drugs below 26 years old. i can attest. drugs don’t fix problems. they hide and let problems infect other parts of your life.
say no to sex that makes you feel pressured. as a guy i got status from chasing sex at your age, but if fucked me up to only be liked for being attractive. friends who cuddle are more important than acquaintances who fuck. one validates you as a human being and makes you feel seen. the other hollows you out while forcing you to become a person for the sake of others to feel seen.
be outdoors. pet animals. eat vegetables. drink water, not soda. drop food additives like “flavour enhancers” (e621) and aromas (vanilla aroma is made of literal cowdung and fossil fuels.) companies are not your friends: you’re as cattle to the companies, so yeet their brands. wear natural fibres and what you like.
welp i have more but idk if you’d read all
i have read it all. it was nice. thank you
oh also shower every other day, use deoderant without shit additives every day, change socks & underwear every day, make your bed instead of letting your mom do it (especially when your room smells like teen spirit), open a window to air out your room everytime before you invite somene over, learn to use a washing machine, learn to floss your teeth, use conditioner after you’ve rinsed your schampoo, learn how to clean the toilet after you & how to wipe yourself in the front (shaking isn’t enough among adults AND shaking excessively can easily damage your tube), trim your nosehair… i could go on with life lessons i’ve gathered that came to mind after reading your post. little details of adult life that are learnt in silence and not really spoken about in media outlets- but that got taught to me by older people and partners having an embarassing conversation about growing up. sucks to learn the hard way, worse to never learn these at all. domestic things regarding hygiene is rarely spoken about, but it’s so friccin interesting to learn about “how to do it right”. especially as a young adult who’ve never been taught to properly take care of yourself. like shaving with a barber’s knife, sewing back buttons and patching holes in clothes.
it may be more big and suspenseful times to live in but these boring hygiene habits apply to adults now since the beginning of the parliamentary society in the 1900s. hygiene is less prevalent in immature adults and more prevalent in mature adults. ik it sucks to do, i have diagnoses of all kinds, but it’s a sign of being a responsible adult to keep hygiene habits.
those cis-men who joke about men being beasts and cavemen aren’t more masculine, just derogatory towards other men’s potential. the manliest man isn’t scared or toothfloss and doing dishes. weaker cowards make up excuses to not take responsibility for their hygiene.
for deodrant part, i have skin problems due to which my dermatologist has forbade me to use perfumes and deodrants on my skin
fair and valid! :)
Use sunscreen.
Brush your teeth and see the dentist at least yearly.
Stop reading beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Just post the song for him.
i do. and it is best thing i could do. People call me girly for doing it but skincare is for everyone
The people who call you girly are idiots. Having said that, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being girly. I much prefer that to toxic masculinity.
Buy a plunger BEFORE you need one
On a related note, own a fire extinguisher before you need one.
Also learn how to use both before you need to.
Be nice to others, be honest, keep out of trouble, don’t hang out with people who create trouble, and work on yourself.
The biggest advice I can give you is, you need to try to be social. It’s easy to hang out with friends in high school because everyone’s locked into the same building every weekday for 6 hours.
Once you’re an adult, you no longer have that limitation. Even college is more of a “go to class for 2 hours a day then leave afterwards” type of experience. It’s certainly liberating to not be forced to be someplace for long periods of time, but it also means that the primary reason that you hang out with your friends (ie, because they’re already there with you) is now gone. It can make for a very lonely experience.
You need to go out of your way and actively maintain your friendships. Make plans to meet up at least once a week or something. Otherwise, you won’t really get another chance to make deep friendships
yeah indeed i can relate for that lonely part
This is not strictly true. You can still make deep connections later in life. Very true that it takes effort though, and not as easy as when you are younger. Not impossible though.
Yeah in college I experienced both extremes. I spent about a year and a half completely isolated, just traveling between classes and my dorm. It was self destructive and my grades and mental health suffered. Then I made some life changes and started going to clubs and events and made friends and suddenly it was easier to study even though I had less time. I became extremely social and found myself spending nights doing everything from deep discussions of big ideas to long nights drinking with friends to lots of casual sex to long nights working on projects.
Because of all this I left college far more well rounded and prepared for my career and my marriage. To this day the skill of how to make friends and positive acquaintances has stuck with me and been a majorly useful skill.
damn bro!! I don’t have this connection. Fellas all around me just i don’t know why avoid me and like damn, I am not a friend of anyone. If I put a certain persona then I am likable otherwise no one even wanna see my true self.
Don’t drink and smoke.
Don’t put your dick in crazy
Learn to shop, cook and eat without highly procesed foods
Clean the toilet when you are done
i fear from stove but gonna learn it
Adding to this:
Save as much as you can. One day, you’ll need it.
Take care of your teeth. It’s the only set you get, and it sucks when you start having problem.
Drink water. Lots. You do not want to experience a kidney stone.
Take care of your back and knees too. You really don’t want to fuck those up because they will be lifelong pain if you do.
Save as much as you can… but don’t skimp out on quality of life.
Too many people I’ve see pinch pennies to save only to end up dead or in a place that couldn’t enjoy it. Make sure to take time out for yourself while you can before it’s too late
Basically mine would be “all things in moderation”
Obviously, making time for yourself is a good thing. If you’re miserable, there isn’t much point!
I guess this is more a consequence of my living in a very consumer-oriented society that the importance of saving is so prevalent. Plenty of fun can be had for little to no money.
Don’t drink and smoke.
Don’t put your dick in crazy
I mean, I agree, but I think it’s more fun to find this out for yourself.
Before you get a career, live and work in another country or travel on a budget for a year. See other places, meet new people, learn lots of new things and get out of your comfort zone. Some people just walk or bike across a continent with a tent.
You won’t be able to do it later in life when you have a job, family and commitments.
Yeah, maybe find a touring job for a year or two. Cruise lines are always hiring, and there’s plenty of technically skilled jobs that you could later transfer into other industries when you get tired of traveling. If you’re going to travel, do it young when you still have the time and energy.
Exercise, have a salad for dinner sometimes, be careful who you date and keep friends you can trust to tell you when you’re fucking up.
Meaning can be found in pain and we all face that.
Everybody else is just faking it, too.
And everyone is trying to muddle through, including your heroes. I think it’s good to keep this in mind; both to avoid feeling inferior for not having your shit figured out (because nobody has) and to be tolerant of people making mistakes – nobody’s perfect and everyone has issues besides getting your order exactly right.
Be chill with yourself and with other people.
Non withstanding there can be fundamental differences which no one tells you about (like neurodivergency) so if something feels very off, it might be.
Don’t stop training, don’t eat shitty food (at least, not daily), don’t believe anything you hear or read and always double check it.
The right age for playing video games is after 30. before that, there s better to do
I have no interests in games when I am playing life as a game
Thefuck?
Games are a hobby. If they give you pleasure and joy, then there is no “better” thing to be doing.
How much of your time at 18 should be spent on hobbies is a different matter, but to dismiss games as an unsuitable form of leisure at that age is insane.
The games people play growing up and as young adults can be formative and massively influential.
They tell stories, frustrate, entertain, let you form social bonds, and even enlighten you in ways no other form of media can by allowing you interactively explore the thoughts of other people.
Plus, I’m not even 30, I am already noticing a decline in my performance in terms of precision and reaction time when it comes to the competitive genre.
I was asked for an old man advice and gave it. Video games is not any hobby. It requires no physical effort and little social interaction. It is suited for older married people.
Music does not “require” physical effort or social interaction. The same goes for books, movies and tv. Would you dismiss those, too?
Video games are an art medium, with exceptions to every one of your points.
Motion control games require tons of physical effort.
Multiplayer games literally cannot be played without other people.
There are games for couples, friends, parties, and quiet alone time.
It’s an entire art medium, one which INCLUDES entire other art mediums like writing, music, acting, and more.
Your opinion is based on an incredible narrow interpretion of what video games are and can be. Or perhaps you haven’t checked in on gaming in around two decades.
Either way it’s resulting in absolutely horrendous advice.
Only a tiny number of the games I play and have played, are ones I would hold off on until I’m over 30 and married. Some people find their spouses because of gaming.
A LOT of games I played had their biggest impact around my 20s.
don’t make a kid
Hey! I was a kid
Learn how to clean properly, stains especially.
Practice a few basic but yummy recipes (trial and error for which work for you) and get good at cooking them.
Remember everybody is living their own life at their own pace. Don’t feel like you aren’t doing it right.
Ask for help when you need it. Nobody can do it all alone.
Stay in contact with friends and cut ties with people that make your life worse.
Go to the dentist, ask them how to take care of your teeth for the next 80 years, and do it.
If that means cutting down on soda, or acidic espressos, or candy do it.
If that means buying an expensive electric toothbrush with better toothpaste do it.
yeah i got braces last year and it is worth it. definitely gonna do it
